The internet has been on the blink lately, so this week has
been a bit sporadic post wise. In the
future, however, I’m aiming for new posts every Tuesday and Thursday!
I’m dedicating this week’s second entry to my friend Ashley
who is attempting to live a healthier lifestyle amidst her treat-loving husband
and kids. Getting healthy is definitely
an easier task to accomplish when you only have to look out for yourself—you
don’t have to worry about cooking for other people, you don’t have to worry
about other people bringing unhealthy foods into your home, and you can set
your own schedule for eating and exercise that works for you. If only life were so simple, right? For most of us, however, it’s not.
I too have a special someone who makes bad food choices; in
fact, he vehemently stands against healthy eating and eats at all hours of the
day (and night!) So, I’m right there
with you Ashley. It can be twice as
hard, especially when you’re fist starting out, to make the right choice when your spouse always
goes for the wrong one. Since this is a
truthful blog about my own personal story, I will tell you, there were many arguments between the two of us
about dinner choices and exercise those first few couple of months.
Here’s the thing, you’re probably not going to be able to change your spouse’s eating or exercise
habits. Just as time and again we all
hear that certain things aren’t good for us—greasy foods, smoking, drinking,
etc.—I don’t see
McDonald's, R.J. Reynolds, or Anheuser-Busch going out of business
anytime soon. People do what they
want. Save yourself the arguments, and
do what you want. Yes, you will be angry that he gets to eat a
piece of pizza and you’ve ordered yourself a garden salad—but eventually, the
anger (or jealousy?) disappears and you’ll lose weight, feel better, and forget
all about that pizza. Likewise,
healthier choices will start to come naturally. Secondarily, if you continue to make smart choices and try to get daily exercise, it stands as an example to those who live with and around you. Without trying, which can lead to arguments, you might just make your family think twice about what they’re eating too. Or if you’re starting to look damn good, you just might make your husband think he better get his act together as well! Also, if you do the cooking, as I do in our household—what you make, is what they eat. Make your meals healthier because that’s what you want to do, and they’ll have to go along with you or suffer the consequences! If you can’t deal with snacks and sweets in the house, get rid of them! I still try not to keep too many quick fix sweets in the house—if I want a cookie, I have to make cookies…is it worth the effort? Seldom.
I usually grocery shop alone as well. At first, I preferred to have company, and
took hubby along for the ride, but I found things I wouldn’t normally eat—M
& Ms, chips—somehow ending up in my cart.
And if they’re sitting around at home, they’re all too easy to snack on
alongside your spouse. Tell your spouse
to keep his treats elsewhere, if you can’t control yourself (though control
gets easier the longer you stick to healthy living, trust me). Tell him to keep a
snack at work, in his car, or stop before he gets home if he just has to get a
cookie or a doughnut—and to NOT bring you one.
Likewise, a “treat” for doing a great job being healthy is a slippery
slope. Why not tell your spouse you’d
rather have a gift card to a spa? Or maybe a date night, instead? Reinforcing good behavior with bad food, just
doesn’t work for people—for Fido, maybe.
Finally, as I’ve eluded to before, all things in
moderation. This is not a diet--it's a lifestyle.
If you can’t live without a taste of key lime pie, or even a whole
slice, every now and again, then have one, but make this treat few and far
between. Or try to find a healthier version of your favorite treat, then you won't feel so bad when you indulge. Try out my version of key lime pie below! Since I don’t like to keep
sweets in the house either (my downfall, as well), I find that if I make
something, I give at least half of it to someone else. Cookies? Send half to the office with the
husband. Cake? Have your in-laws over
for dessert too. The key here is not to
completely eliminate those things you enjoy from your life, but to limit their
intake. Additionally, if I really want a
cookie, but don’t want to risk making a whole batch (and eating like 20
cookies—hey, it happens…) I go somewhere, like Tim Hortons, and get a
cookie. Just one. That way, you don’t have a dozen more left at
home to eat. Yes, they’re more expensive
than making your own, and usually not as good, but again, it’s a method of
limiting your access to such things, when you might not be able to control
yourself.
Another example, and I'll be the first to admit it, tonight I went out to Buffalo Wild Wings with the FSARC crew after running. Dessert sounded like a good plan--and hey, I just ran five miles in 80-plus degree weather and humidity! So, I ordered the chocolate cake. No doubt, it was delicious, and I ate about half of it--but only half. Then I pushed it toward my friends and let them finish the rest. If you deny yourself everything, you might gorge--then you'd really fall off the wagon! So my advice is to take it easy--this is a gradual adjustment to a new lifestyle, which hopefully includes your family as well, but just keep plugging along and eventually, you'll get there too!
No Need to Deny (Yourself) Key Lime Pie
Ingredients:
2/3 C. boiling water
1 pkg. (.3 oz) Jello sugar free lime flavor gelatin
Ice cubes
1/2 C. cold water
1 tub (8 oz) Cool Whip Lite whipped topping, thawed
8 full sheets low fat honey graham crackers, crushed
4 T. Land O'Lakes Light Butter and Canola Oil, melted
1/3 C. Stevia in the Raw
Directions:
Preheat oven to 400' F. Combine Stevia, graham cracker crumbs, and butter in a small bowl, mix until ingredients are evenly distributed. Press moistened crumbs into bottom and up sides of a 9" pie plate. Bake in preheated oven ten minutes--do not let brown. Let crust cool completely.
In a large bowl, add boiling
water to gelatin; stir 2 min. until completely
dissolved. Add enough ice to cold water to measure 1 cup. Add to
gelatin; stir until slightly thickened. Remove any unmelted ice. Whisk
in Cool Whip until blended. Refrigerate 15 to 20 min. or until mixture
is thick enough to mound.
Poor jello mixture into cooled crust. Refrigerate at least four hours.
per slice (1/8 of pie) = 147 calories